Thursday, June 24, 2010 Twins Tossing Rose Petals and Reconciliation Talks

Hola muchachos!

    I last saw you at Uncle Don and Auntie Kim's wedding.  You were Holy Hell trying to get dressed here in your tuxes.  It is true what they say about the terrible twos.  First of all, none of us could figure out how to put on the dam suits, all sorts of weird straps and buckles with the tie and suspenders and vest...geesh! And Dylan did NOT want shiny patent leather shoes on..he kept throwing them off.  Uncle Joe had to take Noah into one room since you were feeding off of each other with the pathetic "Daddy go?!" screams.  (you should hear your favorite Uncle Joe mock you!!) and Chris took Dylan downstairs amidst the chaos of one adult tux thrown on top of another and Grandpa K asking questions and wandering around in a confused state.  NOT a pretty sight, believe me.  Your dad was trying to shower and dress at the same time.
    Anyway!  You were both REASONABLY well behaved at the wedding but did not cooperate with the rose petal toss down the aisle.  When you got back to your seats, Dylan grabbed a handful from the basket and threw them at Holly's head and then Noah got the idea to throw a few at Holly and Ryan.  You are only tow years apart which is starting to mean less and less now that you are all ambulatory and somewhat verbal.  (you are still dominated by those two word sentences though.  Noah does ramble on but we have no idea what he is saying)  He does repeat almost everything.  Perhaps he was apart in a former life.  
     The latest scoop on your parents:  Your mom called your dad to see how the rehearsal dinner was I believe and wanted to come over with wine.  They had a long talk and the long and short of it is that she cancelled the "4-way" meeting with lawyers and asked for a continuance of three months.  She is saying she wants to work things out but the rest offs have seen this before, particularly after a holiday. (Thanksgiving, Christmas, Mothers' Day..everything except Kwanza and Hanukkah it seems.  I think deep in her heart she knows she would be unhappy divorcing your dad but I think she really does not know WHAT she wants.  I've advised your dad to make dam sure he keeps grounded by going to his therapist and if it is true that they may be on the road to reconciliation, then he needs to have his ducks in order-before there is any moving back in together there is couples's therapy, there is absolute assurance that there is no longer a third party involved, etc.  IT has been so hard watching your dad on this roller coaster ride ever since the call in April 2009 asking me for the name of a couples therapist.   I'm sure your mom has not had it easy, either.  For one,  she has had to give up 50% of her time with you both..although as it turns out, it is not as much time since she works the weekends anyway. She has your M-F except Weds PM.  So we will see where this all goes.  Another factor is your moms' health.  She has a lump on her breast and was going in for an ultrasound yesterday.  She also has a cyst or something somewhere else, her aunt died of breast cancer and your mom had in vitro fertilization shots and God knows what that shit does.  We are crossing our fingers that early detection plus recent improvements in treatment will prevent a catastrophe here.
     She and I have had a couple of positive email exchanges, but she seems to want to maintain her distance.  I sent her a bunch of pictures of you guys swimming at the Haverhill Y and Mosely on the playground and in our house. :-)
Love you both,
Auntie Kim