March 18, 2016
Your dad redeemed himself ( for now) and called me after over two months of no contact., called me to tell me it was Grandma Chris's birthday. I had already sent a card. He acted as if we had just talked recently and said he had just finished an audit he had been working on since December. (?) But we did set a time to get together and went out to dinner with the three of you and Uncle Joe to Panera, your first time there. You liked the fireplace! Dylan and I sat in the comfy chairs to try them out. We watched two movies I got to show you-Nacho Libre and another one about a boy in Macchu Picchu who witnesses a murder and is on the run from the killers. Its' a nice story about friendship, he makes a Peruvian friend. When Dylan left that night, he imitated the Peruvian boy saying "Gooooood-bye!!!" with the little sideways wave. Too god dam cute! We got silly at Panera looking at pictures of nerdy families from my calendar.(Awkward Family Photos) Noah was cracking up about the fat girl that I said had too much Halloween candy.
Next week we are getting together to go to the Rowley Grange for supper. Your dad loves these suppers. Uncle Joe hates the! I do like them myself. :-) The last one we went to was with Grandpa K when he was going around doing magic tricks for people at their tables. I got mad at him and told him to stay at our table. He was losing his marbles already but I didn't know. I just bought he was being a jerk! :-
Thursday, December 21, 2017
Domestic Disturbance
February 27, 2016
Dear boys,
Still haven't seen or heard from you or your dad. It's been upsetting to me but I trust that whatever is going on will be "water under the bridge" as our ancestral foremother liked to call it! (Robin, especially-your 2nd cousin-old joke with your dad) Unfortunately, it will probably take me calling or texting your dad to see what's up. On a selfish level, I am most disheartened that he has not had it in his heart to call me in two months. Maybe he is mad at me because I didn't invite him over for Christmas, or call him, but why is it up to me to call and plan for everything? We already had a big talk about that very topic. He needs to take more responsibility to initiate in keeping family together. Relationships are a two way street, even with family-never take ANYONE for granted, especially your family. If your dad was not my brother, our relationship would have ended many years ago because he is so bad at making any kind of effort to nurture it. I love him to pieces, just as I love you both, but I am not enjoying trying so hard to keep the connection going!
But I did want to write to keep you guys updated on what I have come to figure out thanks to social media. I am concluding from your mom's Facebook posts that Adam has moved out and that they will likely divorce. I check occasionally to see if there are pictures of you, especially lately since I don't get to see you in person. :-( But I ALSO found out Adam was arrested for assault and battery at your house on Dec 5, 2015 at 2:30am. I believe that was the same night your mom called your dad crying, left a message asking him to coach the basketball game. We assumed there had been a car accident or D.U.I since she posted she had been at Wally's Pub shooting darts that night. The marriage lasted a hell of a lot longer than I predicted. Hopefully, she will find someone better. I wonder if your dad was hoping they might get together again? I think unlikely but I guess possible??
Dear boys,
Still haven't seen or heard from you or your dad. It's been upsetting to me but I trust that whatever is going on will be "water under the bridge" as our ancestral foremother liked to call it! (Robin, especially-your 2nd cousin-old joke with your dad) Unfortunately, it will probably take me calling or texting your dad to see what's up. On a selfish level, I am most disheartened that he has not had it in his heart to call me in two months. Maybe he is mad at me because I didn't invite him over for Christmas, or call him, but why is it up to me to call and plan for everything? We already had a big talk about that very topic. He needs to take more responsibility to initiate in keeping family together. Relationships are a two way street, even with family-never take ANYONE for granted, especially your family. If your dad was not my brother, our relationship would have ended many years ago because he is so bad at making any kind of effort to nurture it. I love him to pieces, just as I love you both, but I am not enjoying trying so hard to keep the connection going!
But I did want to write to keep you guys updated on what I have come to figure out thanks to social media. I am concluding from your mom's Facebook posts that Adam has moved out and that they will likely divorce. I check occasionally to see if there are pictures of you, especially lately since I don't get to see you in person. :-( But I ALSO found out Adam was arrested for assault and battery at your house on Dec 5, 2015 at 2:30am. I believe that was the same night your mom called your dad crying, left a message asking him to coach the basketball game. We assumed there had been a car accident or D.U.I since she posted she had been at Wally's Pub shooting darts that night. The marriage lasted a hell of a lot longer than I predicted. Hopefully, she will find someone better. I wonder if your dad was hoping they might get together again? I think unlikely but I guess possible??
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