Thanksgiving Fun at Auntie Kim's

November 28, 2009

Dear kids,

An interesting twist in the Ken K vs. Melissa K saga.  Both parties have filed for divorce but no "action" taken yet other than a letter from your dad's lawyer to your mom's lawyer stating that your mom moved out on 11/9 and that the arrangements for child custody have been agreed upon T,Th pm with dad and weekends and a financial disclosure statement will be provided and let's resolve that amicably.  That was last week.  Yesterday your dad filled me in on the Thanksgiving day fallout. Your mom went to her sister Kim's for dinner (she was invited here but declined due to the circumstances) and Kim finally told her that we all knew why she moved out, that she was in fact involved with Mr. Dan, your dad had all the evidence and knew all along but hoped that it wouldn't end up in divorce, that somehow they could still reconcile but that possibly was out of question one she moved out.  Apparently your mother almost fell through the floor in shock, that everyone knew all along and called your dad wanting to get together to talk.  She wanted to go over to the house and your dad said no.  After a three way High school conversation between your dad, Aunt Kim L. and your mom, your dad and mom finally spoke ton the phone for about three hours.  Your mom is completely remorseful and says she knows she needs help and wants the phone numbers the marriage therapist gave her.  She asked if your dad would ever consider taking her back and he said he didn't know, since he'd been so hurt, yet he told me he would when we talked yesterday.  I suggested he move slowly and cautiously and not make any decisions for a couple of months to give you mom time to get better if she is truthful about her intention to get help.  Your aunt tried to tell her that she was kidding herself if she thought Mr. Dan would leave his wife and kid, pay alimony and move in with her and three other kids.  We all know that but I don't think she does yet and may still try to hedge her bets.  She is just not in the right frame of mind and there is no quick, easy fix.  Your grandmother disowned her, and she is most vulnerable to predators like Mr. Dan, and has not a realistic idea of what love is, not the romantic notion.  Mr. Dan wrote to her in one card "It's our destiny." (or something to that effect) Mr. Dan needs to be castrated and banished to a cold prison camp in Siberia, but your mom may need more help than your dad can wait around for, yet he has been amazingly patient so far and he has the painful expedience of living through his own parents' divorce and knowing our dad wanted to reconcile with our mom.  And we knew that deep down she never did stop loving him.
   I do have to tell you guys how cute you were on Thursday since that was the original intent of this journal!  After dinner we went out ion the deck and ran around like banshees with Rui, Grandma Chris and Mary Jo came outside, Samira too and we chatted, played hide-n-go seek with Rui.  Noah was jumping at some moths flying around the porch lights, shrieking in delight and Dylan was walking off in to the dark saying "scawey!" Both of you would not leave Uncle Joe alone in the house. "Uncle Joe! Uncle Joe" but that stopped when Uncle Joe saw cute little Noah try to kick Jack and he picked him up and yelled at him.  Dylan had a great time in the bouncey house Daddy set up on the porch.  Rui and Dylan were bouncing away together inside.  While Uncle Joe supervised.  As fun as it was, it was so nice and quite after you left!! :-)
Love Auntie Kim and Uncle Joe who may not visit you today because we want some quiet time at home together.  But we love you!!!